What we say and what we do are two very different things. For example, if you say you are a kind person, in what way have you demonstrated kindness in the world? Have you helped an old lady across the street? Have you been gentle to your animals? Nurtured the vulnerable? Do you say you’re going to become a healthier person? If so, have poor eating habits changed? Do you take the time out for exercise as well as relaxation? Or are you still downing the Big Mac and large coke every lunch time? Do you say you’re a committed person? If so, what have you committed to recently which brings you into life?
Our lives are made up of a collection of choices. We choose our path in life, whatever that may look like, and as such only we can be responsible for the consequences/outcomes of those actions.
Personally, I’m a very driven person. A little too driven sometimes. Hence I added the part about making sure a commitment to being healthier means taking time to relax. This has always been a huge issue for me. But using yoga as an example, it has taught be to seek balance in my life and be consciously aware if this balance is not present. Commonly people come to me and ask why they’re not seeing results they’d hoped for, emphasising how committed they are to becoming healthier, both mentally and physically. When I ask a few more questions about their daily habits, such as eating, work, social lives etc I can begin to see a clear pattern as to why they’re not achieving those results. For one, often their practice is inconsistent. There is also little value placed on the importance of maintaining a healthy diet, relationships, social activities etc. There is no right or wrong way to go about changing/improving/becoming whatever it is you desire for yourself, however regardless of your approach to realising this desire, there needs to be a clear plan and commitment to how you plan to achieve that.
I’m a true believer that we can be/create/achieve whatever we desire in this lifetime if we want it enough. For when a desire is so strong, then you will move mountains to make it attainable. Speaking from personal experience, I know self doubt has been one of the biggest hurdles I’ve ever had to mountain climb over - and this is an ongoing journey. I’ve certainly not beaten that personal beast. But, the good thing is I’m aware of this tendency and as such I work extra hard to challenge it. To not give in to this neurotic insecurity. If we can all be aware of our own self limiting attributes, then we can CHOOSE not to give into them. When we do this, our commitment to self, to achieving those desires/goals move from the realm of the impossible to the possible.
So with that, take some time to note down reasons why you struggle to commit to goals/activities which you know in your heart will bring you joy, and then actively work to challenge those reasons. It’s time to stand up, trust yourself, believe in who you are and bring about a life which makes your heart sing. Be the person you want to be and say you are.
If you have a story to share where you’ve struggled to commit to a goal but overcame it, I would love to hear how you did it?.Please also touch base if you’re struggling to commit to your goals. By talking it out you would be surprised what you may uncover which will help you take steps to move forward.
Now go live that dream!